Authenticity: My Thoughts on An Upcoming Book Release

I’m one of those people who swears pretty infrequently.  I find curse words crass and usually, there’s a better way to express myself. But in Honorée Corder’s new book, Stop Trying So F-ing Hard (9/23 release date), she explains that it’s used for emphasis, which I totally get.

I know some of my friends will just love this book. Not because of the F word, but because it’s about being your authentic self. In it, Honorée explains that in all areas of our lives, when we meet people, we are meeting their representative, that persona they anticipate you expect them to be.  We all do it. We project who we want others to perceive.  

Consider dating. Usually, the warts and annoying habits aren’t apparent until at least six months into the relationship, right? We wouldn’t NOT put our best foot forward at an interview, when speaking at event, or dating. No, we want to make a good impression, so we put the game face on, right?

The problem is that it’s mentally and physically exhausting to always send a rep to the party, which is the point of the book, Stop Trying So F-ing Hard!  How exactly do you do that? You get curious. You ask questions. 

Am I trying too hard?  What keeps you from joy? How can you eliminate the problem? What does happiness look like for you?

Do you ever compare your success to others and find yourself lacking? Recognize that you only see the representative, so you’re basically comparing yourself to something that doesn’t exist.

Learn to be neutral when receiving feedback. Everyone will have an opinion. It’s up to you to determine what to do with it. Know what’s right for you and make no apologies for what you like and don’t like. #zerof*cks

All this, I gleaned from a podcast about the book that hasn’t been released yet. Are you interested in reading it too?